by David Gates
It would be possible to write a whole novel about the life of Joe Koke. There’s his dry wit, his brilliant intelligence, his wonderful academic career, his strong commitment to family life and community values. However, for me it was his friendship, open mindedness and his generosity that I will never forget.
As his cousin it was from early adolescence onward and although we lived 120 miles apart he played a role more as a friend than as a relative in my life. Then during our university years his studies overlapped with mine at the University of Oregon and we even lived together for a time at ‘Grandma’s house’ on 11th Avenue in Eugene. I especially remember my month long visit with Joe and his wife Judy at Edmonton, Alberta, during the Summer of ‘69 when he was studying for his PhD degree at the University of Alberta, and there were my many visits to the family in San Marcos, Texas as well as at Cindy and Bill’s house near Washington, DC.
I don’t know if it is possible to speak to those who have passed on or not, but if it is possible I would express my appreciation to Joe for the many lessons of life I have learned from him through his friendship, especially those concerning our relationships with our parents. Here, there is a great deal of gratitude for a debt that can never be repaid. His was a life well lived and a lesson that is both direct and inspiring while pointing, sometimes in a very delicate way, to the better way to live.
Thank you, Joe.













